I listened to Marie Forleo’s podcast interview with Seth Godin today and he talked about changing the language we use (all my clients are rolling their eyes right now) on our paths to success, and since I’m all about that, I thought I’d expound on that a bit.
First, as a reminder, our thoughts become things. Meaning, they can dictate our reality and our emotional response which all of us at EC work on with our clients. So re-framing is always the first step in managing our emotions.
One of the things Godin suggested in the podcast, and one I hadn’t thought of it yet, is turning the “but” in our sentence to “and”.
How would this look I wondered? Here’s what I came up with:
Your original thought is “This year has really been a shit-show but at least I’m still alive.”
So let’s replace the but with “and” and tweak it even further:
“This year has really been a shit-show and I’m grateful that I’m healthy and strong.”
Ba’am! Don’t you feel better just reading that?
Let’s do another for fun (cuz I need to get more hobbies apparently!):
“I’m so annoyed that I still have to telework for the next 80 years (ok, it FEELS like it’s that long) but at least I’m getting paid.”
New one: “I’m so annoyed that I still have to telework for the next year or so AND I’m so thankful to be getting paid normally.”
Now you’re getting the gist of this practice, so I encourage you to try this and see how it makes you feel slightly better.
Not only does this small replacement totally change the direction of your thought but adding the gratitude at the end, is another small way to stay on the positive thought loop.
Let’s face it, in this crazy ass year, feeling even slightly better is a WIN! Anything we can do to help us recenter ourselves and shift our emotions in a more positive direction, is a great outcome.
So there you have it! Another micro suggestion for you to keep working towards living a life you love.
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