Okay, maybe saying mirror trick isn’t exactly accurate as it’s really an “exercise” but whatever you call it, this one simple trick/tip/exercise can make a HUGE difference in your self-confidence and your anxiety.
This is not an original tip and maybe you’ve seen it before elsewhere. But because it’s so effective and powerful, it bears repeating and reminding to you lovelies out there.
Feeling less than?
Feeling not good enough?
Feeling discouraged, defeated or just plain down in the dumps?
Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror? Like REALLY looked deep into your eyes and loved what you saw? Probably not if you’re like most of us.
More than likely you’re focusing on what you don’t like – your eyebrows, your shoulders, whatever it is you’re hyper focused on that you think is not ideal.
Well guess what? You’re looking at yourself through a fucked-up filter.
A filter that was put there by our society, by the messages we’ve gotten from growing up or from misguided partners (okay, even asshole partners) and just all those shitty things you’ve told yourself over the years.
Let’s change that filter out by practicing the mirror trick for self-confidence:
1. Stand in front of your mirror and really look at yourself and find things you like.
Maybe you’ve always had hair that’s shiny or you love your bald head. Maybe you love your eyes because you can see out of them, or your arms because they work, your legs because they carry you everywhere or your heart because you, my love, are a generous kind soul.
2. Pick 10 things – YES I said 10 things – you can say you like about yourself.
Dig deep if you have to.
You can do this.
3. Now take a deep breath and say them to yourself while you are looking into your own eyes.
I admit this may feel uncomfortable, but trust me when I tell you that it will be a game changer for you.
So, you could say: I love my arms because they are strong and capable; I love my heart because I am kind and good; I love my teeth because I work hard at taking care of them; I love my skin because I take good care of it; etc… You get the idea.
Do this every day and then the day after.
What you are doing by consistently, repeatedly saying these loving things to yo-self is creating a new neuropathway in your brain that will eventually become the truth. YOUR truth.
This means you are building your self-esteem and confidence internally by building a solid foundation that you are growing on.
When I first started doing this mirror trick for self-confidence, it felt weird, I’m not going to lie. After I did it for a couple of weeks it became second nature and shockingly, I began to believe it! Now? When I look in the mirror, I see all the things I love about myself even though I’m not perfect (who is??), and it helps me to carry myself tall and confidently throughout my world.
What’s cool too is that you can do this mirror exercise for anything you want to work on. It doesn’t have to be just the external you but you can do this with anything you want to increase positive feelings about such as combating internal money messages, messages about your ability to succeed, etc… You get the idea.
Let me know how this works for you and if you have other tips to grow your self-confidence. As always we’re here for you to stand by you while you’re battling all the demons in your life. We’ve got you!! Schedule your session now or reach out via our contact page.
