Leap and the Net Will Appear.
I first heard this said by Dr. Maya Angelou, whom I adore, many years ago (probably 25), and it has always stuck with me. In fact, it’s become something that I live by personally and encourage clients to remember when they’re afraid.
Clients come to us for many reasons. Feeling increased anxiety. Difficulty getting over a bad relationship. Unsure of what to do or where to go now.
Yet, of all the reason’s women seek therapy, the theme we see over and over is FEAR.
Fear of leaving, fear of staying, fear of trying, fear of giving up, fear of change.
As we’ve determined before, anxiety is fear on crack, so it makes sense that when you’re feeling fear, you’re usually also feeling some anxiety.
This is where we come in. We’re the fear slayers! Hehe… Seriously though, we’ve fought this battle over and over and know how to defeat it.
And that’s why this cool albeit brief mantra comes in handy: leap and the net will appear.
What’s this mean you may be asking?
Well, simply put:
Act now, before you see what the result could be, cuz things always have a way of working out.
Unsure of what your boss will say when you ask her for a raise? Ask anyways!
Afraid of what her family will say if you divorce their daughter even though you’ve been miserable for years? Do it anyways!
Scared to send in that application for the course you’ve been eyeing forever even though you know in your heart it will change your life? Send it in!
I’m sure you’re thinking ‘how easy to say that.’ I get it. Things are always easier to say than do.
But here’s what I’ve learned: every time I’ve taken a chance, a risk, made a jump … it ALWAYS worked out.
Every. Single. Time.
Now, did it work out the way I’d envisioned it each time? Nope. But most of the time, it was even better than I could have ever imagined.
The best way to control your fear is to make it your bitch.
It’s to take ownership and decisive action and just take that step towards what you’re so fearful for and also excited about. Successful people will affirm this over and over. They just take risks and actions where they’re unsure of the result, but they do it anyways.
Success is the direct result of multiple failures and imperfect actions done over and over.
Once you take action, it’s like the universe creates some steps to show you where you need to go next. Super exciting to see, but you gotta take the step first to see what’s illuminated on your path.
And here’s where we come in: we will be walking next to you while you’re doing this brave, hard work of creating the life you deserve. We know exactly what fear looks like and how to work with it and around it. We’re experts here!
So my loves, when you’re on the edge of an important decision (or even a simple decision) and you feel paralyzed by all the “how’s” and “what if’s”, walk to the edge of the cliff, hold your nose, close your eyes and fucking DO IT!! LEAP! We got you!
Here are a couple books we recommend if you need further proof that this process works:
- “Do It Scared: Finding the Courage to Face Your Fears, Overcome Adversity, and Create a Life You Love” by Ruth Soukup
- “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyways” by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D
And of course, if you need help, we’re here for you. Just book a session with one of our therapists today.
