No matter who you are, where you live, or what your family situation looks like, the holiday season is just BUSY!
Always stuff to do, stuff to clean or organize, things to buy, meals to plan, travel to set up, you get it: just tons of shit to tackle.
As a team of women, we know more than anyone, how taxing this all can be! Most of us are already juggling all the balls in the air and now we must add all the holiday stuff on top of it?! Makes us all crazy sometimes!
Statistically, women are still responsible for most of the housework, childcare, house managing, driving, errands, you know what I’m talking about. (See more stats on this here.)
While we know that this is a systemic problem much bigger than us and is something we must continue to tackle on a societal level, I still would like to acknowledge that I see you! I see you trying to do all the things for your household (even if you’re a household of 1 plus a kitty cuz there’s always work to be done!!), we know you’re working hard every day!
One of our team leaders shared a nugget of wisdom with us in our last leadership meeting and it really struck us all with how simple yet profoundly impactful it can be.
And that is:
Be where your feet are.
Whew! That’s it but damn, that’s powerful!
How many times are you running from thing to thing? From a school event to the grocery store, from a doctor’s appointment back to a meeting, from store to store trying to find that PlayStation game your kiddo wants, we get it because WE ARE ALL DOING THIS TOO.
The reason why this small statement made such sense to us is because we’re usually always a step ahead of ourselves and this is a good reminder to take a breath, look around you, and feel thankful or happy to just BE where you are.
My son and I spent some time baking this Thanksgiving which I treasured so much. I used this statement to remind myself to just be present while he was showing me how he makes his pie crust (so delish btw) instead of worrying about whether the turkey is almost done or the table is set, etc.
Because I did this, I was able to really plug into this activity with my sweet boy whom I don’t get to see as often because we live states apart, and he’s busy forging his own path. We made a memory that now I can access whenever I miss him. Priceless.
This was such a blessing to me that I am now saying this whenever I feel the urge to not really pay attention to my husband’s words or my friend’s story because I’m worried about a deadline coming up or something else that needs my attention. It’s a good reminder to just slow the hell down and engage with my people.
Additionally, being where your feet are is good not only for you but also for those you love and those around you.
How many relationships would feel the benefit of you just dialing in and staying focused on whatever your sister or brother is sharing with you at the dinner table?
Or how about really being present while you’re walking your dog with your child and they’re talking about their day or something that upset them?
Isn’t that really what connection is all about? Being present and mindful and giving your undivided attention to those who love and support you?
Being where your feet are is a wonderful way to fill yourself back up and can be a great way to just connect with your people.
We as therapists here at Empowered Connections embody this in your sessions. We are your biggest fan, and you will feel what being present looks like and can be like when you’re in a therapy room with us!
If you’d like to experience this revolutionary way of healing your wounds, increasing your self-esteem, and even achieving your goals, we’ve got you! You can easily self-schedule 24/7 here on our website, email us at email@example.com, or give us a call at 301-690-0779.
We look forward to showing you how to be where your feet are!! Happy holidays to all of you from all of us!