Do you remember when you were a little girl? Pigtails or messy hair flying around, dirty ripped knees, muddy hands and shoes, playing with abandon with zero fucks given?
Or do you have a little girl in your life that is like this? (In case you don’t remember yo-self being this free.)
We are all born with confidence and high self-esteem and a shit ton of bravery.
But it all comes to a screeching halt the first time someone scolds you for being too “anything” or you hear a negative comment about yourself that really stings. Ouch.
My professional guess is this happens around age 5 or so. This is when things start to really get dicey and we begin shrinking to fit in. To be accepted. To avoid being “too much.”
So how do we get some of that girls self esteem back?
This is a pretty regular issue we see in our empowerment coaching clients that I wanted to touch on really quick to get you started. Here is our beginner’s guide to increasing girls self esteem
First, let’s get super clear on WHAT these messages you have about yourself.
Yes, list them down on a piece of paper! I always tell my clients that we’re just gathering info/recon at this point so don’t you dare attach any feelings to it or emotions. It is what it is. So, get back to that list and write ‘em down.
Next, we look at each message on that list to see where they came from.
Who told you that before? Where’d you hear that? Did you read about it or see something on social media that you compared yourself to?
Once we’ve separated the list of messages into fact or fiction columns, then we practice redirecting our thoughts when we get these zaps throughout the day.
After you’ve mastered this (takes a couple of weeks of consistent monitoring and re-tweaking) in order for it to become second nature, we move on to rewriting your story.
So, who are YOU? Who do you want to BE? Who did your parents want you to be? Who did your last relationship change you in to? What are you good at? What do you want to get better at doing? Who did you want to be when you were little? What do you want to feel about your life right now?
This is a just a small glimpse into the powerful life-changing work we can do together to really increase your confidence and boost your self-esteem.
Imagine what it would be like to not being stuck in the “I’m not good enough” loop every time something negative happens.
Or to be able to keep your head up and keep moving forward even when someone hurts your feelings.
How about being about to say No easily and guilt-free when someone asks you to do something you really don’t want to do? (Remember: No is a complete sentence girl!!)
These are all attainable goals and ones that we can build together when we work together in redesigning your life.
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We are super stoked to offer this program to all women, no matter where you live, all over the globe.
We got you!
